OK, so
we've all done it. We've all put what someone else wants before what you want.
What if those people are your parents? I know that it is easier said than done
when it comes to putting what you want before your own parents. One reader said
she found herself becoming self conscious based on things her parents wanted.
Here's my take on that one.
I think
that everyone has been a position where they feel torn into so many different
directions because you want to follow your heart but at the same time you feel
obligated to please your parents. Who wants to feel like they failed the people
that tirelessly gave to them? I hate feeling like I disappointed my mom. Here's
something in our defense though. What if I told you our parents don't really
know us like they thing they do? I honestly think that parents take too much
credit for knowing their children. Most parents don't really want to believe
that they only know what we want them to know. I had to break this news to my
mom on our way back from Georgia after Thanksgiving vacation. She didn't want
to hear it but someone had to tell her. I mean there's a lot that I want that
my mom would never know about because I never think she'd think I was being
realistic.
Here's a
tip. Think about yourself when you turn 40 years old. Will you happy about
making decisions based on what your parents wanted you to do? I mean the only
people that would say yes to this are people who aren't capable to make their
own sound decisions anyway. I feel like any person that everyone should like
the independence of making their own decisions.
I think the best thing to do when you start to feel
like you’re getting pulled in so many different directions is grow some balls
and ask yourself what it is that YOU want. YOU’RE AN ADULT! You’re young and
you should be selfish at this point in life. I always tell my mom that I can
still have respect for you and still do what I want to do. I mean I’m you’re
not out here harming yourself are you? I DIDN’T THINK SO J
I think that there’s always going to be people
trying to make you do what they want you to do. The last thing you want to do
is be your own worst enemy when you’re just fighting to be happy in life. We’re
all learning this (I haven’t mastered it either). You don’t want to resent your
parents later on down the line because you let them live vicariously through
you. Your parents have lived their lives already…now it’s your turn.
OK well I’m done. If I didn’t cover this well
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